“My biggest thing at the moment is looking after my husband after having a stroke.
We’ll have been married 60 years in November.
It was nothing like today where you pay an arm and a leg to have a wedding. He’d been away pig shooting and he brought home two ‘suckers’ and my brother reared them. So Dad took one down and had it butchered, cooked it in a crust at Sylvesters and then everybody else made all the salads and desserts and everything else that went with it. It was absolutely beautiful.
He had a bike. And I wish I was game enough to get on the back of one now. My husband wants one of his own now but of course he wont drive again or anything … but that’s one of the things you do without.
He can’t communicate properly and that type of thing. It’s hard ‘cause I do everything for him. I’ve been told I’m not to but I do everything for him. You know, unless I say have a drink, he won’t have a drink.
Many years ago I said to him, “I want a dishwasher.”
And he said, “What do you want a dishwasher for? You’ve got me.”
He was in the hospital ten weeks, and the day he came home from hospital after having his stroke we had tea and he got up. And I said, “What are you doing?”
He said, “Washing the dishes.”
So there was something that stayed there. He still washes the dishes every time.
It made me feel wonderful. Wonderful. I thought, ‘Oh, you beaut! He’s better.’ But … we’ve still got a long way to go.”